How do You Know When Someone Truly Loves You?

Most people laugh when I tell them how I know my husband loves me…

Naush & I have been married for 6.5 years now, and we often get asked, “Was it arranged?”

It was not.

I had a huge (unrequited) crush on him in high school, but it wasn’t until graduating college that I bumped into him again at a party for a mutual friend.

We began seeing each other more—first, with our friends—and then, alone.

We were both single, and our relationship escalated quickly. We were engaged within 6 months on our first Valentine’s Day together.

Of course, there were all the “Hollywood” signs that he loved me, including dinner dates, gifts, and flowers.

The ring was also a sign that he loved me, but more important to me than the diamond ring was an old pair of white socks.

Let me explain.

After we got married, our honeymoon period came to an abrupt end.

I’d never lived with anyone other than my family before, and the adjustment was difficult for both of us.

The fights were seemingly minuscule at first, such as an argument over who left the lid off the mason jar, but like our love story, the fights escalated quickly.

Yelling, name-calling, late-night calls to family and friends in tears, and more became the norm until I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Borderline personality disorder is a mental health disorder that can cause extreme mood swings and difficulty in relationships.

I began to see a therapist individually as well as with my husband, and it helped.

I always compare therapy to cleaning up a mess. As you’re cleaning, you first make a bigger mess before things come back together.

Well, after one particularly difficult therapy session with Naush, I went to bed crying. My husband was also upset, and he withdrew upstairs.

Later that night, however, I felt him put a pair of socks on me.

Even though we were angry with one another, he still made sure my feet were warm, so I would sleep comfortably through the night.

That’s when I knew without a doubt how much my husband loves me.

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My Favorite Family & Lifestyle Products on Amazon

I have a problem…

An Amazon problem.

Ever since I upgraded to Prime, the convenience of the one-click-buy has changed my life, and while my spending may have skyrocketed, I must admit that I’ve found some truly incredible products in the family & lifestyle space that I wanted to share with you.

You can find all my top picks on Amazon on my storefront here 

As for categories:

Baby Registry

Home Gym


Date Night


And more…

Comment below if you’d like any product recommendations in categories not listed above!

Mother’s Day Gifts with 1 Day Delivery for Those that Procrastinate (Like Me…)

I’ve been so busy getting gifts for Eid and Teacher Appreciation Week as well as Lily’s birthday which is coming up quickly that I completely forgot about Mother’s Day.

I have just a few days left to get gifts, so I’m putting together a guide of products that offer one day delivery on Amazon. Act fast as most of these items are currently ON SALE. 

I ordered No.7 on this list for my mom

1.3D Crystal Photo

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2. Wearable Throw Blanket

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3. Bath Robe

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4. Rose Gold Cookware Set

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5. Perfume

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6. Home Decor

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7. Roses that Last 2-3 Years+

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8. Leather Bag

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9. Anti-Aging Skin Care Set

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10. Aromatherapy Diffuser & Essential Oil Set

I Just Joined Medium!

I have friends making over $2500 on Medium by writing articles once a week.

It’s a platform I’ve played around with for a while, but I’ve never dived into.

Not until now, at least.

I’m officially on Medium @SaniaKhiljee, so follow me here:

My writing career has become one of my top priorities again, so you can expect a lot of stories to be shared over the next few weeks.

My favorite part is that I’ll be able to go into greater detail about my life stories than ever before, and you know how I am.

I hold nothing back.

How Do You Become Happier?

I was at my lowest point in 2019, following the birth of my daughter.

I love my child and motherhood deeply, but I was ill-prepared for how dark postpartum depression could get.

Every day was harder than the one before, and there came a point where I lost all hope.

This time period coincided with the end of the decade.

There were 100 days left in 2019, and for some reason, that mattered to me.

I did not want to go into 2020 depressed, so I started a simple challenge:

I’d post one thing that made me happy a day for the next 100 days.

Turns out, someone had already come up with this challenge and titled it #100HappyDays, so I tried it out.

At first, it was quite simple. I posted fun photos from each day, but it was as I got deeper into the challenge that it became more complex.

There were really hard days, and my “happy moment” was a simple five minute coffee break…

There were other days that were unremarkable, and there was no “one moment” that I could pinpoint that made me happy.

I had to become intentional about making myself happy daily, and that’s when things began to change for me.

I planned my week out based on the what I wanted my happy moment to be.

I became responsible for my own happiness—and made it a priority.

I also held myself accountable for my happiness by posting daily.

This shift, though it seems so small, has been truly life changing, and my 100 days of happiness has turned into a lifetime practice.

Is this a challenge you would try? What’s a practice that you’ve incorporated that’s made you happier? 

The Worst Nightmare I’ve Ever Had…

Towards the end of college, I became very good friends with a girl. For privacy, I’ll call her “Ari.”

We spent a lot of time together and soon became inseparable.

She was there for me as I called my engagement off to my ex of 7 years…

…And she was there for me as I fell in love again.

We went on many adventures together and travelled as often as we could.

During Ramadan, however, we paused our travels to focus on prayer since it is the holiest month for Muslims.

I remember reading Quran one day, and I was alone in my room.

All of a sudden, I heard Ari’s voice.

I looked around, but no one was there.

It was likes someone was playing with a volume button.

Her voice began to go in and out…

Before I could process what was happening, I heard a man’s voice say clearly, “Do not talk to her anymore.”

Then, the voice disappeared, and all I could hear was the sound of my heart pounding.

I tried to ignore what had happened, but every time I saw Ari after that incident, I felt anxious.

And every time I saw her, I’d have nightmares of large snakes.

They were everywhere in my dreams.

I was constantly fighting the snakes away in my dreams, but it was futile.

There were too many.

The only way I could get the nightmares to stop was to distance myself from her.

I still remember how hurt and confused she was, since we’d been so close, and I didn’t know how to explain why I was pulling away….

But I trust that voice was watching out for me.

The nightmares ceased once our interactions did, and we haven’t spoken much since.

What is the Most Impressive Thing my Parents & Grandparents Have Done?

I’m still in disbelief every time my family & I discuss my late grandfather’s life….

He was orphaned by the age of 10, and he had two younger siblings that he had to work to support.

He single-handedly raised them, and eventually, when he married, he had four kids of his own.

My father was his youngest child.

My father grew up in Pakistan, but he moved to the U.S. to attend the University of Houston.

He would not have been able to immigrate if it were not for his elder brother, who helped him throughout the process, housed him, helped feed him, etc.

My dad studied hard, but the economy was going through a downturn when he graduated.

Though he’d majored in engineering, he was not able to find a job in his field.

He ended up selling insurance instead, and eventually, he opened his own agency.

That agency was the start of his entrepreneurial journey, and from there, he built a series of multi-million dollar businesses.

That is not, however, the most impressive thing my father achieved.

I think, deep down, he never forgot his father’s struggle, so as soon as my father had the funds, he helped build a school in Pakistan for children in poverty.

The Jamil Campus is now open and running in partnership with The Citizens Foundation, and it is not only a way to honor my late grandfather….

It is the most inspiring thing my father has done, and I hope to be able to follow in his footsteps to help those in need at every opportunity.