First Starbucks in YEARS—
Don’t let this photo fool you.
Pregnancy was anything BUT glamorous for me, and even though my daughter is my whole entire life, it is an experience that I’m not likely to repeat…
Let me explain
When I was 27, I had a vivid dream that I was holding a curly-haired baby girl, and in my heart and soul, I knew I would have a baby soon.
At that time, we hadn’t discussed it, but my husband would be thirty soon, and I convinced him that we should begin family planning…
I was never on any birth control (s/o to the my husband’s pull out game), so we began trying.
Two months later, I was pregnant
To mitigate any risk to the baby, I stopped taking my anti-depressants—including Zoloft and Xanax.
These medications are essential for my health, and being off of them (along with the hormonal roller coaster ride that is pregnancy) made me extremely anxious.
Every single day I was convinced something bad was going to happen to the baby.
I think deep down, I felt like it was too good to be true—too miraculous to be real—and I was extremely anxious.
This began to change when I could feel the baby’s kicks…
That became the best part of pregnancy for me. Her kicks were my reassurance that she was okay, and my God was she active!
Soon after that, though, I was diagnosed with Choleostasis.
My pregnancy became high risk, and my nerves were back to an ALL TIME high.
I did not relax until I was in the hospital room, induced, and about to give birth.
That’s finally when I felt I could breathe, because I knew I was in good hands…
And when they put my daughter on my chest…
Well, that was the most beautiful moment of my entire life.
Brunch with Yasmeen at Black Walnut Cafe
Noah’s 4th birthday party!
La Pasha with Brittanye
I have started multiple companies (including a 5 figure, 6 figure, and 7 figure company), been featured in major publications such as Forbes, Entrepreneur, Inc, Huffington Post, given a TEDx Talk, co-authored 2 books, and amassed over half a million followers for my blog…
So, I often get asked, what did I study in school?
I went to the University of Houston to the Bauer College of Business.
There, I got a Bachelor’s degree in Marketing, a Minor in Sales, and a Certificate of Entrepreneurship—
Which are ALL relevant to what I do today as a business owner and blogger, but my education did not end when I graduated.
Every year, I’ve continued to sign up for online courses, including—
Advanced Marketing Program by Neil Patel
Get Booked by Kimanzi Constable
Affiliate Marketing Bootcamp by Adrian Brambila
Pinterest Traffic Secrets by Anastasia Blogger
Instagram Domination by Foundr
…And countless writing courses from Gotham’s Writing Workshop
Since business and marketing change so rapidly, these courses and my degrees have been extremely valuable to my career.
I hit 60k on Instagram after dealing with a year or two of literally no growth…
But I’m honestly really proud of myself for not giving up despite the difficulties
And now, I’ve had 7 (almost 10) Instagram Reels hit over a million views within a month
It’s honestly so surreal, and I’m so grateful for each and every person that follows my account
While I haven’t truly worked a “job” since graduating college…
I did spend my 9 to 5 working at my family business (preschools), and in the morning/lunch/after hours, I worked on my side hustle (my blog saniakhiljee.com)
I joined my family business in 2013, and in 2015, I decided to start blogging for fun. I didn’t think of it as a source of income. I mostly wanted to build a following to become an author—but it has become so much more.
With blogging, you can work at any time. You set your hours, and there’s many ways to monetize it, including: ad revenue, sponsored posts, affiliate marketing, selling your own products/services, etc.
And the best part? You can build it around what you’re passionate about.
But of course, blogging is not the only kind of business you can start while working a 9 to 5. There’s limitless opportunities on the internet—which never sleeps.
Here’s a list of ways I’ve made one online—outside of my “9 to 5”
- Started a subscription box
- Offered coaching/consulting services
- Social media marketing for companies
- Paid to speak
- Sold books
- Sold “shoutouts” on social media
- Charged for “sponsored posts”
- Created a digital magazine
- Created content that was monetized via ad revenue
- Sold online courses
- Affiliate marketing
- And more…
We had a love marriage—and 6 years later, it is still full of love.
We met each other in high school, and I had a massive crush on him. He was handsome, intelligent, funny…
…Imagine my surprise when I found he liked me back.
Our relationship moved quickly after that.
Does that mean I think love marriages are superior to arranged marriages?
I have seen many successful arranged marriages as well as many unsuccessful love marriages…
The problem lies in assuming there is one right answer for all—as if there’s only one correct path to love.
Each of us will find love in our own unique way, and to be honest, it’s not really important how we find it.
It’s important how we maintain it.
Once you say your marriage vows—both a love marriage and arranged marriage will have similar challenges, including:
- Starting a family
- Supporting each other’s dreams
- Allocating Responsibilities
- Conflict Management
- Time Management
- Getting along with each other’s family & friends
- And More!
Despite living at home during college and commuting to school, I truly felt like college was one of the best times of my life.
I didn’t live on campus.
I didn’t drink.
I did not party.
But I truly enjoyed my major, immersed myself in classes that interested me, made good friends that have lasted over a decade, attended football games and festivals, got really great grades, got an awesome internship—and started a 7 figure business right after graduating.
So, if you want to have a good time in college—but an even better time after graduating—continue reading:
- Don’t get so caught up in “having a college experience” that you throw away the rest of your life
Trust me—alcohol, drugs, and sleeping around—are not something that you “have to” experience in college to have a good time. Partying does not mean you’re living your best life. It is, I promise you, a distraction from your best life.
The people that I know that partied the most in high school and college are no where near as happy or as successful as the people I know who kept level-headed.
2. Make friends!
I know it’s harder to make friends for some people than others, but regardless of whether you’re shy or introverted, try to put yourself in the position of meeting new people and making friends.
Chances are, some of the best people you’ll ever meet will be in college—so learn to start conversation, join organizations based off of interests, play intramural sports, go on trips, and more.
But remember, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so choose wisely.
3. It’s ok to change majors
It’s better to waste a year or two than waste the rest of your life doing something you don’t love. Yes, money matters, but it also matters that you live a life that you are passionate about.
4. Take care of yourself
In between college classes, organizations, hanging out with friends, homework, and more, it can be easy to let yourself go. Especially if you’re not used to living on your own.
But neglecting your physical health can quickly lead you down a spiral of destroying your mental health as well.
Work out, eat healthy when you can, get the right amount of sleep—
You can only abuse your body for so long before it gives up.
5. Find yourself
This is one of the best times in life to truly find yourself. Don’t fall into doing what everyone else is doing around you “because that’s what college is about.”
Find out what you love, and do more of that.
Find people you love, and spend more time with them.
Figure out what your passion, beliefs, and values are, and hold onto them firmly.